Approximately four years ago, I heard the toughest seven words a spouse could ever hear: “I don’t want to be with you.” I remember standing in my home and thinking how the hell did I get here? The thought of not being married to this person hadn’t crossed my mind.

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Fast forward to today – I’m happily married to an amazing woman and have the perfect stepson (literally, he is every father’s dream). And you know what? I still ask myself the same question: “How the hell did I get here?” Unfortunately, like many people, I became complacent in my relationship. Looking back on my previous marriage, we didn’t have a bad marriage; we had a nice home, good jobs, and our dogs. But, what was bubbling under the surface was discontent.

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I was at a proverbial fork in the road where one path led to blame and self-sabotage and the other led to introspection, self-audit, and self-work. To be fully honest, I went down the path of blame and self-destruction multiple times, but using the tools I learned through therapy, coaching, and self-work I was able to veer off that path and back to the path that led me to my life today.